Survey : how many of you are married to "real woman" with the body shape of a drum ?

if this woman stood up and is not able to see her feet/ ankles because her belly is getting in the way, would you be happy ?





if she has a real bad attitude, is so over weight that she resembles an elephant when walking, would you be o.k with her ?





my question is, if the woman is in such physical condition it it normal for the husband to want a divorce ? ( if the husband is in good physical shape and is relatively more handsome )

Survey : how many of you are married to "real woman" with the body shape of a drum ?
i think women should stay in shape. if not for their husband atleast for their own self esteem and good health.
Reply:Your love should not just be based on looks. This guys sure sounds like he is into himself. It is one thing if you were upset because the wife gained so much wieght due to health issues but I think this man is more afraid of what others might think of him being with such a big girl. What if this man got into a bad car accident and lost part of his face would he want to be loved less NO. There is a reason why this woman is as big as she is. Usually wieght gain is due to stress. She must have lots of stress in her life.
Reply:real woman - is being a woman skin deep!! And not in her looks or size. What if at the age of 90 your wife who probably is younger and healthier than you or incase your hand of leg is cut off - she wants to divorce you for your physical challenge!!!





Btw...are you so handsome and wealthy yourself???
Reply:A woman who lets herself get into this condition has issues with her self pride. That makes it more than skin deep. Did you know this when you married her? You can't make yourself be attracted to something or someone.
Reply:I don't think there's anything wrong at all with a man wanting his wife to remain attractive and in shape. Too many women let themselves go, which is unfair to their husbands and to the women. If my wife gained weight, you better believe I'd have something to say about it.
Reply:If you ever loved her you would try to help her
Reply:Bad attitude, overweight.....she's probably depressed. You should try to help her...the question you just asked us leads me to believe that you are not trying to help. Maybe you should go for walks together everyday and just talk about life. She'll be more willing to exercise if you are with her, supporting and encouraging her. You both deserve to be in a happy marriage, but that takes a lot of hard work and dedication, and you both have to be willing to do the work. Have you both given up?
Reply:did you call your wife an 'elephant' ?


ouch


if you're that disrespectul, then the marriage sounds doomed
Reply:Yup. Physical chemistry is important (as much as people try to deny it) in a relationship.





Being morbidly obese has probably taken a toll on your sex life. It has probably made her unhealthy. It has probably made her attitude bad because her life is so impaired by her weight.





Being extremely overweight is not just a superficial problem. It effects ALL areas of your life.





I am not advocating that people should only date supermodels or anything, but what being so obese that it's dangerous says to me is this: this person doesn't care about themselves at all, and by proxy doesn't care about their relationship all that much either.





Intellectual connection is important. Emotional connection is important. But physical connection is important too. A relationship can only be successful if your partner connects to you on ALL levels.





There is no shame in that.
Reply:when you married her does she fit in the door? If yes and she let herself go,then that is sad.





I don't know why men and women thinks that it's OK to get slobbishly fat and then complain when their spouse divorce them.





You are what you eat!
Reply:that is too funny...i wouldnt want my husband to stay with me if i looked like that...he deserves much better...
Reply:If the husband is that pathetically shallow, he doesn't deserve her in the first place.
Reply:I read you got a lot of hate for people. Sure love is there, but physical attraction does play an important role in a relationhipship. I am guess she was not overweight when you got married, so what made her get to this point. Usually depression, pregnancy causes a woman to gain weight. Have you talked to her about it, have you tried to offer her help to try and lose weight. It is not nice to describe your wife as an elephant, you did love her once and slept with her..... Anyway the point is to finding out why is she the way she is. But if you are trying to find sympathy here, i doubt you will get any.
Reply:HAHA!!! I have this conversation with my Fiance all the time. I ask him "If I was as fat as that lady over there, would you still love me? Would you still be attracted to me?" He tells me yes, and I call BS. I know that I wouldn't want to be married to somebody that was grossly obese and I wouldn't want him to stay with me if I was like that.
Reply:.......ok....would you mind asking the same question by removing the words...lady...woman and she.." then filling those spaces with " man, he...extra...as if a lady want to ask this question to the men.....?





1...one should check all the aspects and see / talk / discuss belive / satisfie then marry...no body want to marry over weight person.





2....later in our life...cause of certain reasons such as medication,surgery..accidents or cause of some bio-logical reason if someone become fat...then its your fate...we have to support your partner (victim)...it is gods will......
Reply:To be very honest, you should try to help her loose her weight not leave her coz thats not the solution and moreover its not right to generalize over weight ladies, not all of them have attitudes.
Reply:Woo. I will greatly love to have one of a kind whom I am sure no one would be knocking on her door for a date. It would be only me and I won't have anything to worry about infidelity. To answer your question, this woman is a human being being just like you. if you are married to her, and you love her, keep her and if you don't like her looks, help her to shape herself as you want. I believe if she can get treatments, exercise, reduce eating junk food, these obesity would be reduced. Surgery perhaps would help allot. You ask is she a real woman? Yes she is a really woman if she was born natural with a Virgina, woman hormones, breast, physical nature and etc. So if she does her responsibility, makes you happy, treats you right only that you are ashamed of her appearance, step up as a concerned husband and help your wife to shape up her appearance. She can become any figure your want as long as you stand by her side, motivate her and encourage her to meet her goal. If she have bad altitude, communicate with her to change the habit and if she don't treat you right, ( i know men have problem dealing with altitude women), don't listen, don't want to reshape herself, stresses you out, you have option to opts out of the marriage and find happiness somewhere else. Nobody likes to be hurt and humiliated and behavior always plays a great role in such family.
Reply:Yeah women need to take pride in their appearance and not totally let themselves go. It is harder once married though, and once kids are involved. I am having trouble losing ten lbs, but my husband is always feeding me all the time and loves watching me eat so its partly his fault. Hehe, but i'm still a relatively tiny women, if I were getting fat for real I would have to work on that. Thats just n ot healthy.
Reply:Don't be silly, what difference does it make what the husband looks like? Are you only allowed to want a physically fit mate if you are in top shape or better shape? That makes very little sense logically speaking.
Reply:no...it is not normal for the husband to want a divorce...


it is normal for the husband to help her loose weight...





if you want to divorce your wife buddy, find better excuse.. you dumb *ss!
Reply:dear zeus ...





all the stuff explaining the love for ur wife is sheer nonsense ... how many times u wouldnt have told he to reduce the weight before u decided to divorce ... she has made herself into such a fat lady and being proud of wat ?





few women think that they are the most beautiful creation in this world but unfortunately even god wouldn't have eyed her again ... she won't take any advice wat so ever with her attitude ... she doesnt respect u at all .. thats why the behavior with u ... she can even man handle u if u fight back ... with all this u still put up with u ... u wont pardon urself in few more days





i would suggest divorce her ... so that other women learn a lesson or two ... even press charges against her for domestic violence ... not worth a life ...





bye


god may be with u
Reply:Yes. I went through this with my ex. I even told her that all she had to do was 'be good to me,' and she couldn't even do that. She was overweight and getting worse and her attitude went the same direction. I couldn't take it anymore and jumped ship. I don't regret it AT ALL. If she isn't going to change for the better and you pretty much know it 100%, you're going to waste that time being unhappy. Try though, since you are married.
Reply:Hey, do you KNOW a better way to get EVERYTHING in the divorce than by letting yourself go so that the inevitable 'straying' can be the basis for a cruelty claim?


Hook him, land him, make the bait unattractive, clean up when you get the dirty pictures of him and his secretary (or whoever).


No wonder so many wives are fat!
Reply:I'd think the husband would realize that the wife is not happy being this fat and would be kind, understanding and try to help her. You can lose weight and I am sure she does not like herself as she is and has low self-esteem. How about walking together each day, or excercising together; cooking healthy food together. Think her bad attitude comes from her self-loathing and depression and anger about it all. Don't criticize; take action to build up her esteem and get her healthy again.